I wish I could say I was posting this mantra because it’s become my daily practice. Nope. I am posting it because my judgment mind needs to be reminded of it over and over again.
I’m finding that shelter-in-place is making it especially difficult for me to practice non-judgment and avoid comparing myself to others. After all, almost all of my daily interactions are now happening online. I rely on technology to work, to study, to entertain myself, to distract myself, and to connect with others.
This non-stop tech connectivity is, unfortunately, providing me with some new and very unhealthy ways to compare myself to others. The result is a severe case of judgment mind. Why isn’t my home as nicely decorated as hers? How come everyone seems to be waaaay more productive than I am? How does he have the stamina to be on Zoom ALL. THE. TIME? How on earth can that person still put on makeup/jeans/real clothes?
I am not yet great at stopping judgment mind, but I’m getting better at noticing when it’s rearing its head, and it’s time for me to put it in its place. That’s when I try to repeat this mantra. Non-judgment doesn’t come naturally to me, but this mantra helps to remind me that I can let these judgments go and focus, once again, on what’s important to me.
So important! I’ve been thinking of the Amy Poehler mantra around this lately: “Good for her; not for me.” Helps to keep the insecurities in check!
Love it! I have to keep bringing myself back to what is good for me, regardless of what others are doing. It’s so hard but so important.